Losing someone we love is one of life’s deepest hardships, and the grief that follows can feel overwhelming. In those moments, we often hold on tightly to anything that reminds us of them their belongings, their scent, the little things they touched. This natural response can bring comfort, but not all items help us heal. Some possessions may quietly prolong our sorrow, making it harder to move forward. Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting it’s about making space to heal while still honoring their memory.

Certain items, like medications, hospital supplies, or objects tied to difficult days, often trigger painful memories instead of comfort. These things can serve as constant reminders of suffering rather than love. Likewise, unfinished projects books they were writing, crafts they started, or plans they made keep us focused on what was lost rather than what remains. Passing these items on to others who can complete or repurpose them can turn sadness into something meaningful.

Clothing is especially personal, often carrying the familiar scent of someone we miss deeply. However, holding on to too many clothes can prevent us from accepting their absence. Keeping a few special pieces while donating the rest can help us begin to heal. The same is true for favorite personal items—mugs, tools, or keepsakes that, while precious, may weigh us down if we keep too many.

It’s okay to save one or two meaningful things, but it’s important not to surround ourselves with everything they left behind. True remembrance lives in our hearts in the love we shared and the lessons they taught us. Moving forward with that love is one of the strongest ways to honor their life and find peace.